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Thursday, May 6, 2010

He who hesitates is lost

I am working from home for the first time in my professional career.  I love the freedom, but it does get lonely at times.  Just to get out of the house a bit, I have started working a few days of the week at this little cafe close by.  Even if I didn't meet anyone, I would still be around people, and that's important.  I have a tendency to get hermetic at times, so I force myself to get out there, whether I want to or not.  Also, you never know who you might have the opportunity to meet once you become a local at a gathering place, whether its  a bar, coffee house, or anything else.

Last week, I watched a girl walk in and take a seat across the room from me.  We made eye contact and smiled at each other.  Beautiful skin, beautiful eyes, and with long, black hair.  She was joined by a friend of hers within a few minutes, but throughout their conversation, our eyes kept finding each other.  She laughed a lot, and she had a great, honest laugh.  Eventually, she left.  I thought about her over the next few days.  I liked that she wore a hat.  I think women can look really good in hats.

Yesterday, I saw her at the grocery store.  We walked by each other, and I smiled, and she smiled back.  We went our separate ways.  I told myself that if I saw her again in the store I would introduce myself and tell her that I had seen her at the cafe.  I turned down an aisle just in time to see her leaving the store.  I could have ran after her, but I didn't.

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25 comments:

Annabelle said...

I understand the need to get out and work in a cafe - I like being private in public. If you've already seen this girl twice, I'm sure you'll run into her again. And honestly, if I were grocery shopping and a guy chased me down I'd flip out and run for cover. You did the right thing playing it cool.

Hansoul Kim said...

you will most definitely meet her again. :)

Hanley Bonynge said...

life fail

Clara said...

I agree with Hansoul :) And good for you for resisting hermetic urges. 'Atta boy.

Allison said...

I feel like you just described me. The lonely barista who can't seem to find the words.

Urgh.

Hesitation is my biggest hurdle, and if I do talk to him I end up being too vague and he doesn't catch my drift.

Good luck to you - I hope she comes back and I hope you don't hesitate.

It won't just be for you, but for all of us introverts out there (not that you're an introvert) - anyways...hope it works out.

Alison said...

You're a funny one

Juliana said...

AAAHH I LOVE THIS! Go back to that cafe, go back, go back. YEAY!

Will Conk said...

3rd time is the charm... What are you going to say?
I'm jealous you get to work from home.

Bobby Smith said...

All the women: "AAAHHHHHH... so sweet"
All the men: "DOUCHE!"

just kidding. get after it next time

Peter said...

he who dares ins

Amber said...

Ah, this kills me. I'm sure she would've loved it if you ran after her. I hope you see her again.

Andhari said...

Oh you should so meet her again. Hope she comes down to the cafe very soon. That would be awesome :)

Trouble.Thinks said...

Maybe you'll see her again at the cafe. If not, at least you know for the next one. Make a move! (hehehe)

hannahkaty.com said...

I really wish you would have said hi to me instead of hesitating.. Kidding, obviously not that girl. But great post, I hope if the opportunity presents itself again you will go after it.. great post.

Best,

Hannah Katy

floreta said...

do any of your local papers do an "I SAW U" type thing!? because if they do you should post one!!

Lissa said...

You'll eventually get to talk to her, I'm sure. :)

Martin said...

Annabelle - Really? I would have thought she would consider it...endearing. No?

Hansoul - We'll see...

Hanley - Indeed.

Clara - You WOULD agree with Hanley

Martin said...

Allison - No pressure though, right? I just have to do it for all of us shy people out there.

Alison - you know it.

Juliana - Oh, I'm going, I'm going!

Will - Yeah, it's pretty nice for the most part.

Martin said...

Bobby - Haha, yeah. To be expected though.

Dad - More positive way to look at it. I like it.

Amber - Thanks :)

Andhari - Keeping my fingers crossed. Of course, if she DOES, then I really do have to talk to her. Scary...

Martin said...

Trouble - yeah...cant be such a wuss next time.

Hannah - You should have made it more obvious then! Couldnt you have bit your lip or flipped your hair or something?

Floreta - I dont know...but they should!

Lissa - Hope so.

Allison said...

Yes, it's all on you man, for all of us. Do it!

If it makes you feel better I told my guy that I have low blood sugar to explain why my hands sometimes shake when I hand him his coffee. The truth might freak him out.

Anonymous said...

This post is not very rugged at all. If I wanted to hear about rugged things like this, I would subscribe to Seventeen Magazine instead.

Martin said...

Allison - All right, Im on it. And actually...that DOES make me feel better.

Anonymous - You're saying you don't subscribe to "Seventeen" already? In any case, you have a point.

Ketevan said...

I agree with Amber, I think she would too. Nobody does the running anymore because it's considered so "freaky", why??

Eric said...

Well written.

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